HAPPINESS

 

 

HIGH HIGH UP IN THE SKIES,

 

IT ALL FEELS SO RIGHT,

 

ALL THE STARS AND THE MOON

 

SHINING OH, SO BRIGHT.

 

DOWN DOWN DEEP IN THE OCEAN,

 

THE DARKNESS IS SHATTERED,

 

WHEN THE FIRST RAY OF THE SUN

 

TOUCHES ITS RIPPLES.

 

WITH YOU BY MY SIDE

YOU BY MY SIDE…..LIFE HAS BEEN A SONG,
A SONG OF HAPPINESS…. AND A SONG OF SORROW AT TIMES,
WITH YOU BY MY SIDE…………..LIFE HAS BEEN FULL OF COLORS,
SOMETIMES VERY BRIGHT……….AND AT TIMES ONLY BLACK AND WHITE,
WITH YOU BY MY SIDE…………..LIFE HAS BEEN A RIDDLE,
SOMETIMES I COULD SOLVE IT AND AT OTHER TIMES I JUST SCRATCHED MY HEAD AND PULLED MY HAIR,
WITH YOU BY MY SIDE……………..LIFE HAS BEEN A GEOMETRIC TRIANGLE,
NO INPUTS HERE SWEETHEART, YOU KNOW I HAVE ALWAYS BEEN WEAK IN MATHEMATICS…

WORLD

Fast paced world,

People running around,

Does everyone know where they are headed?

Moving  around  is  a tornado  of people,

Some  knowing, where they are  going,

Some just moving along with the force of wind,

Not  knowing  where   they  are  going,

Some had ambitions when they started the journey,

Now, they are stuck, even if they want to,

They just cant rest,

A  break they cant apply,

A full stop they  cant   draw…………………….

HEART

MY POOR LITTLE HEART,


PINS FOR YOU DAY AND NIGHT,


ITS GOOD THAT LOVE IS NOT AN ART,


I WOULD HAVE SURELY FAILED,


NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY,


WHAT DO YOU CALL A LOVE CRAZY WIFE ?


SOMEONE WHOS MADE A FOOL OF HER LIFE.


THE MORE I TOUCH YOU,


THE MORE I WANT YOU,


LOVE……………ISNT IT A CRAZY EMOTION…………………..


BUT THEN ,


SURELY ITS NOT AS CRAZY AS


I AM FOR YOU………………………

OCEAN OF LOVE OVERFLOWING IN MY HEART

WAVES ARE RISING AND FALLING

A DROP OF LOVE FALLS FROM YOUR HEART

CREATES A WHIRLPOOL OF EMOTIONS IN MY SOUL

THOUGH THE WASTNESS OF MY LOVE, I COMPARE WITH AN OCEAN

BUT TO FILL THIS OCEAN OF LOVE, A SINGLE DROP IS ENOUGH

YOU ARE THE MOON OF MY LIFE

RESPONSIBLE FOR THE TIDES OF EMOTIONS IN MY HEART

HAPPY MOTHERS DAY

A poem from daughter to Mom expressing her love and thankfulness.

A Poem For Mom

© Champagne S. Baker
You are the sunlight in my day,
You are the moon I see far away.
You are the tree I lean upon,
You are the one that makes troubles be gone.
You are the one who taught me life,
How not to fight, and what is right.
You are the words inside my song,
You are my love, my life, my mom.
You are the one who cares for me,
You are the eyes that help me see.
You are the one who knows me best,
When it’s time to have fun and time to rest.
You are the one who has helped me to dream,
You hear my heart and you hear my screams.
Afraid of life but looking for love,
I’m blessed for God sent you from above.
You are my friend, my heart, and my soul
You are the greatest friend I know.
You are the words inside my song,
You are my love, my life, my Mom.

Source: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/a-poem-for-mom#ixzz31PleSl1d
Family Friend Poems 

For Every Parent

A beautiful poem…

Logic

One day Alice came to a fork in the road and saw a Cheshire cat in a tree. “Which road do I take?” she asked. “Where do you want to go?” was his response. “I don’t know,” Alice answered. “Then,” said the cat, “it doesn’t matter.” — Lewis Carrolle

How much importance does one need to give to the goals of life? A life without goals is an empty boat. it is sailing but carrying no passanger, the boat doesnt know where it is headed to. We are alive but do we live? We hardly ever notice our own breathing, we lack time… but we do have the time for our serials, for a long phone conversation!!!

My friends, life is living a day at a time. Smile at every being. When you are in the car, just feel your breathe. Notice how the stomach swells  and how the air comes out of our body. Make short term goals, try and prioritize them. Live for today, who knows if we will be here tomorrow.

I might be contradicting my statement of making goals, but if i think from the view point of today, I am happy i had thought before hand about what i want to do, that way i will not be wasting my precious time. Tomorrow, i need to clean my ward robe. Now that i know this, if i get a tomorrow, i can get in to action without any delay.

rejoice and be exceedingly glad!

— Jesus

A POEM BY JOHN KEATS

John Keats, a name very well known in english literature. yestaerday in a Gujarati newspaper i read about his life, his love and his struggles. He died at the age of 25. Succeess came to him after he left the world. I am touched with the passion and words that he had penned down. I like his letters the most cause it tells me that i am not the only one who is crazy and writes lots and lots of love letters. [I may have more than 500 love letters written to my hubby]

here is a poem of John Keats….

Four Seasons fill the measure of the year;
There are four seasons in the mind of man:
He has his lusty Spring, when fancy clear

 


Takes in all beauty with an easy span:
He has his Summer, when luxuriously
Spring’s honied cud of youthful thought he loves
To ruminate, and by such dreaming high
Is nearest unto heaven: quiet coves
His soul has in its Autumn, when his wings
He furleth close; contented so to look
On mists in idleness–to let fair things
Pass by unheeded as a threshold brook.
He has his Winter too of pale misfeature,
Or else he would forego his mortal nature.

A Message From God

The sun rises with a smile,

The birds chirp and the flowers bloom,

God makes the morning start with a smile,

Everyday the dew drops come on our lawn with a moistened message,

Lets start our day with a smile to ourselves,

Pray to Him cause he gave you a day more,

Love everyone, Dont waste your precious moments with grudges for someone,

Live your life, love your life and Love Him

positive parenting

Dear All,

Why is it that after every session of a motivational speaker we are super charged… and as days go by…?

KA-PUTT

Everything dies down.

This is my way of keeping the charge- charged as long as I can.

Yesterday I attended a workshop on ‘Positive Parenting’ by Shiv Khera. As usual I had tears in my eyes quite a few times during the almost 3 hour’s session. I learnt many a things out of this seminar.

“Life is a one-way street, it doesn’t have a rewind button” he said. Our greatest goal is to bring up a responsible adult in this world. This we can do by converting a child’s dependence into independence.

He said if our job performance is poor, we are shifted to other departments or maybe transferred but if as a parent we perform poor….

Discipline is an act of love and we need to convert external discipline into self discipline. He gave few examples, he said if we could freely drive on any side of the road what would happen. But if we follow the traffic rules we would reach home earlier. Discipline is necessary in every part of life.

In olden times we have seen a situation where a father and a son would be sitting across each other. The son would have to behave and respect his father. In modern times we see a son with his feet stumped on the table facing his father with a video game in hand and a senseless tune on his lips. A father doesn’t ask the son to keep his feet down. He says I am my son’s friend rather than a father.

The tag line is, ‘THEY HAVE ENOUGH FRIENDS THEY NEED A PARENT’. DISCIPLINE YOUR CHILD…

There are two types of generation prevailing in the society today.

1.       The NO generation -this consists of people above 50 years of age.

2.       The YES generation -this consists of people below 50 years of age.

In those times when we asked our parent,

“Can I go to the movie?” the answer was NO

“Can I go to a restaurant?” the answer was NO.

“Can I go to a friend’s place to stay overnight?” The answer was still NO.

In modern times when a parent is asked,

“Mom, Can I go to the movie?” the answer is YES

“Dad, Can I go to a restaurant?” the answer is YES

“Can I go to a friend’s place to stay overnight?” If you say no he will ask ‘WHY’ you will try to give an explanation to one ‘WHY’ and it will be followed by another ‘WHY’… this will go on and on till finally you give up, lose your patience and say, ‘OK YES GO!!!’

Children today have become very TECH-SAVY but the flip side is that they are uncomfortable with people. They are more used to machines rather than humans. But the truth is that  they have to interact with lots of people in their day-to-day life, he can’t marry a machine [at least not till now!!]

To be a successful individual we need to instill these two virtues in our children,

1.       Ability to deal with other people.

2.        The selling ability.

We need to establish certain bench marks on universal values and attitudes for them to follow. Any person who says that values and attitudes can be changed according to a situation has no values himself.

According to Shiv Khera, intelligence means the ability to be a quick learner.

He was telling us about his lecture in U.S.A where he was talking about values and ‘right’ & ‘wrong’.

Some gentleman got up and asked, ‘isn’t your statement contradictory to what Shakespeare said, “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so”.

Shiv Khera simply said that he doesn’t agree with Shakespeare.

If a man happens to jab a knife in your kidney, turns it around three four times, you tell him that what he does is WRONG and he tells you, ‘Haven’t you read Shakespeare, “There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so”.

We are the ones to set an example. When a child turns 13 suddenly he becomes a notorious teenager? No, it is the reflection of the past 12 years that you see. The way you discipline your child counts. He told us about another incident where after a lecture an elderly couple came to consult with him. He said,

“I am not qualified to consult”.

The couple said we want to talk. He was told how the couples 17 year daughter watches television for 5-6 hours a day. Shiv asked them,

“What do you do when she is watching the T.V”?

They said, “We try to stop her”.

Shiv inquired again, “And does she stop?”

The reply was in negative so Shiv further asked,

“What do you do then?”

The reply was, “NOTHING”.

Shiv asked, “Since when has she been watching T.V for so long”

The reply was, “Since when she was TEN YEARS OLD”.

“What did you do when she started this at the age of ten?”

The couple said they tried to stop her.

Shiv asked, “And did she stop then”

The answer was again NO.

“What did you do then?”

The answer was NOTHING.

When our child comes home with a result, if it is good we congratulate him. If it is bad, we tell him how his cousin or his brother/sister scored well and he couldn’t. Don’t ever compare your child to anybody. Teach him healthy comparison of comparing his last performance to this performance. Congratulate him on his commitment and not on the end result alone.

Some points that Shiv Khera taught about POSITIVE PARENTING:

  • ‘As long as you have your eyes on the goal, you don’t see the obstacles’
  • ‘Boundaries are very crucial in life, Boundaries are not Bondages.’
  • ‘Parenting is not a popularity contest.’
  • ‘Don’t fight and contradict your spouse in front of your children’. He went on to explain how our kids learn to play politics and become ‘CHEER LEADERS’ by this act of ours.
  • ‘Teach the kids HUMILITY and remove his EGO’. He shared how when he was a young boy his parents took him to an orphanage where he would serve 100 children and will sit with them and have the same food himself. This was the PRIMARY celebration. Cutting the cake and throwing a party were always SECONDARY. This will help children learn how privileged they themselves are.
  • He told us about an incident when his daughter took his grandson to an orphanage. He saw many kids in tattered clothes and asked,
  • “Mom, where are the parents? Why are they alone here?”

His daughter explained that many kids here had no parents and some have been disowned by their parent. The grandson hugged his daughter and said,

“Mom, please don’t ever leave me and go away…”

  • He went on to explain by reciting a story of a very wealthy father who on his sons seventeenth birthday declares to throw a birthday bash in a five star hotel with a seven star cake and all the BIG people of town. He presents his son an expensive car’s keys and a costly mobile and says,

“Go son, terrorize the town”.

The son drives with an attitude when some other Punk overtakes him and gives him ‘THE LOOK OF SEE HOW SMART I AM’.

The son wants to teach this Punk a lesson and steps up on the accelerator. He is confident that his father can buy anything and everything. Soon he loses control of the car, meets with an accident and all is over.

His father repents, ‘I wish I had given my son some values instead of the car keys’.

  • ‘Don’t feel pressurized to buy expensive gifts for your children’.
  • ‘Those who have never learnt to obey can never learn to command.’
  • ‘There’s got to be loving firmness and a healthy fear’.
  • ‘Sometimes in life you have got to be UNKIND to be KIND’.
  • Answer the INQUISITIVE ‘WHY’ queries of your child but when he challenges your decision simply say, ‘BECAUSE I SAY SO’.
  • ‘Teach your child to do only the right thing even if no one is watching.’
  • ‘Labels stick throughout the life. For a positive child give a positive label.’ If you call your child ‘stupid idiot’ etc. by the time he grows up he is so full of inferiority complex that he will surely prove his parent right.
  • ‘Children need QUALITY AS WELL AS QUANTITY time.’

We have heard workaholic fathers say that they do give quality time to their kids and quality matters, quantity doesn’t matter. A very nice picture was placed by Shiv to explain this to us.

Imagine you go to a restaurant in Ahmedabad; it has the best cutlery imported from china. The best chandelier, the best furniture, and all the best things we can think of. You are given the menu and a very well dressed waiter comes to serve with the finest elegance. Assume you ordered ‘Paneer tikka’. He serves you one very small piece which tastes delicious. You say, ‘give me more’. The waiter says, ‘sir, it’s the quality that matters and not the quantity’.

You say that you are still hungry for more and the waiter says again, ‘sir, it’s the quality that matters and not the quantity’.

  • YOUR CHILDREN NEED YOU… BE THERE FOR THEM NOW…
  • He talked about how we need to practice what we preach. We are the role models our kids learn from.

This was illustrated by the story given below.

Father is reading a newspaper in the living room when the phone rings and his six year old son answers the phone. The voice from the other end inquires about his father and the boy says,

‘Yes he is home; I will get him for you’.

He skips and hops and tells his dad.

Dad asks, ‘son what did you say?

Son said I told him you are home.

Dad said, ‘Go tell him I am not here, I don’t want to talk to him right now’.

Son said, ‘But dad, you are home!’

‘Yes, but tell him I am not!’

‘But dad, you are home.’

‘Will you say that or should I teach you’

Father raises his voice.

Size matters father is BIG, he is SMALL… so the kid slowly loses the enthusiasm and walks slowly to the phone, his reflex action takes charge and he blurts out,

‘Dad says he is not at home’

BANG…… HE HANGS UP THE PHONE.

Next time the phone rings, when the son is asked,

‘Where is your dad?’

He answers… ‘Let me go and check’.

He goes to his father and tells him about the caller.

Father asks, ‘what did you say?’

‘I said I will go and check.’

Father says, ‘GOOD BOY’

Son says, ‘Dad let me go and say that you are not at home, you need not answer the phone’.

Dad says, ‘No wait I want to answer this call’.

We teach our kids that it is bad to lie and we appreciate them when they lie on our behalf.

Children like to hear ‘GOOD BOY’ or ‘GOOD GIRL’.

Here the management theory given by … [I am sorry I didn’t get the name] enters,

‘ANY BEHAVIOUR THAT GETS REWARDED GETS REPEATED’

You have rewarded your child’s lying habit and hence it is bound to be repeated.

Haven’t we all heard, ‘PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT’

Shiv Khera twisted this and said, ‘PRACTICE DOESNOT MAKE PERFECT, IT MAKES PERMANENT WHATEVER YOU PRACTICE’.

If you practice the wrong habits, they will stick to you…

He talked about a busy doctor father residing in the states. He came home with some friends and when he was entertaining the guest the phone rang and he asked his teenage son who was watching television to answer the phone. The son didn’t get up. The phone rang again after few minutes. Father asked the son to answer the phone. The request fell on deaf years.

The son went into the kitchen to refill his coke; father followed him and asked him why he wouldn’t answer the phone.

The son spoke with arrogance, ‘I didn’t want to’.

Father gave him a tight slap. The son banged his feet, went upstairs and called the number ‘800’.

Papa was having dinner when the doorbell rang. Papa opened the door; the cops asked him,

‘Did you slap your son?’

Father said, ‘YES I DID’

They arrested the dad.

Child abuse is a serious matter it is prevailing in many countries including ours but to slap a child in order to discipline the child in no way amounts to child abuse. 80% of children abroad black mail their parents and threaten them to call ‘800’ and get them arrested.

Shiv Khera told us that his mother had slapped him 3 times in 21 years that is 1 slap every 7 years. NOT BAD.

When asked by a reporter how he would rate himself as a father on a 1 to 10 scale where 10 is a perfect parent and 1 is a bad parent. He put himself at no 3 and told us that he had failed as a father and told us,

‘Those who learn from their mistakes are wise but those who learn from others mistakes are wiser.’

He was giving us an opportunity to learn from the mistakes he made.

He told us the short falls of being a single parent or handling a single child.

When Shiv was young, the family lost all. He went to America, washed cars, sold insurance and vacuum cleaners. His daughter was very young then. His wife took up a job to support the family. Whenever they thought about another child, they told each other, ‘LATER’. The later never happened… life went on. When their daughter was 15, the thought that what would happen when they die, will they be leaving an orphan behind? Cousins have their own lives… even siblings do. They also thought, ‘what if our only child dies a sudden death?’

These thoughts made the couple uncomfortable and they went to meet a Gynecologist friend to consult if at the age of 40-41 he and his wife of 39 could have a baby without any complications?

The friend assured that there are many tests available to detect any defect in the baby. They went ahead and had another daughter. Now the problem was that they had another single child. The eldest being 17, was more like a mother rather than a sibling. So now they had 2 mothers, a father and a child.

If a medical problem is a reason for you to have a single child it is okay and understandable…

We were shown a film on HIV and on smoking. Some facts that were given were astonishing.

The research that took place on smokers has made many countries change their laws. The point,

Which strongly came out was that if you don’t turn a smoker by the age of 19, chances are that you will never smoke. Long back the cigarette companies were the biggest sponsors of sporting event, which is now banned. Cigarette companies are also not allowed to advertise. The statistics revealed by the film were horrendous. I am sure any parent present with a smoking habit must have given up the habit there and then.

If a parent says ‘anything within limits is okay’.

Is smoking within limits okay?

Is HIV within limits okay?

According to me, Gujarat has wisely declared the state as a dry area, alcohol is banned here. I wish someone would ask the government to ban ‘GUTKA’ and ‘PAN MASALA’.

We need to cleanse ourselves before we can clean the society.

Well, I learnt a lot from the workshop yesterday. I have tried to quote all the things that were covered but if I have misrepresented some of the information, I would like to apologize for the same.

દોસ્ત

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હસતા રહીએ તો સામે કોઈ સ્મિત પાછુ આપે
અશ્રુ આંખ માં લાવ્યે તો સામે કોઈ પીઠ જાલે
દુનિયા માં ફરતા રોજ મળી આવે
lessons જીવન ના આ જીવન અજ શીખવાડે
experience થાઇ પછીજ સમજાય
હું  જે ને દોસ્ત માનતો હતો
એને તો ખરેખર  દુશ્મન કહેવાય…



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